It’s amazing to me how the universe sends us messages. Often the messages appear either as passing comments that resonate or actual people who are placed in our lives to help us move forward. Our intuition never lies- it always directs us in the right direction. Our challenge is figuring out what is a distraction and what is a real opportunity or lesson. The answer often lies in what our intuition, our gut- our connection to a divine source- tells us. Acting on that, before fear takes over and holds us back, is what helps us grow in the right direction.
I’ve just invested in a very expensive business coach to help me move my business forward. It’s scary and is a leap but I’m trusting my intuition. When fear pops up, I try to go back to that intuition, that deeper voice, and let that guide me- overtaking the fear.
I know that when I’m balanced and make time for quiet, I am much more able to access my intuition. Spending quiet time in nature is an excellent way to access our deeper selves. For more ideas, read Make Some Quiet Time
What helps you hear your intuition? Can you share any tips you use to help you act on it before fear takes over?
I have been receiving your e-mails and reading your advice for months now and I love it! I have NEVER offered my thoughts on the internet before, but this is an area that I have personally worked on and I want to try to share what I’ve done.
For me, a lack of balance is the result of decisions I make based on the “I should’s”. Inevitibly, the majority of these “I should’s” come from external influences, like society, my upbringing, and requests from those closest to me, but they do not necessarily come from my core values.
I felt particularily frazzled last week so I took a time out and thought about why. I had spent my afternoon continually juggling things for my children but realized that I was not prioritizing the things that I valued doing for them. Making my children a priority is a core value for me but my definition of this, does not include waiting on them. I realized that this is what I was doing.
Like many mothers, I struggle with recognizing this before it happens and not falling into the thought pattern that being a good mother means “I should” respond to their needs whenever they ask. Can I have a snack?; Can you help me with this?; Can you tell brother to stop doing that?; Can you…, etc.
My intuition has always told me that the ablity to instill values, support independance, nurture self esteem, and follow through on consequences defines good mothering and not being the maid, the mediator and the disciplinarian. My struggle stems from fears that “I should” be doing certain things for my children based on how I was brought up and what I see other parents doing. Once I recognized this, I could re-group and find my core again.
About 3 years ago, I followed some valuable advice and wrote down my 4 highest priorities (based on my personal values) on a piece of paper. For each of these, I then made a list of things that I could do in 5 minutes or less to ensure that I was actually ‘prioritizing my priorities’…go figure?! At first, I had to actively refer to the lists and conciously make myself do things. Over time, I began to develp the ability to see when I was doing things that were in conflict with my values and priorities.
I was in essence, learning to follow my intuition. By starting small, and building up from there, I’ve developed self confidence, and the inner strength to trust my intuition. Inevitibly, when I do this, I am content, and not stressed although I may find myself out of my comfort zone. I am also finding that the longer I do this, the easier it is to follow my “gut” and not second guess my intuition because I’m being true to myself.
This has worked so well for me that I am trying to teach my children to do the same thing. It seems to help my pre-teen daughter a bit with peer pressure, which is a huge struggle for her right now.
I’m not sure if any of this makes sense but because it’s worked so well for me, I felt compelled to share. Thanks.
Hi Lisa- Thank you for sharing your successes!! So glad to hear you are sharing how to tap into your intuition with your daughter.
Warmly, Bria
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